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But you do have a certain privilege due to the color of your skin. There are certain prejudices that a white man will never have to face that any person of color will. Not to say that you have a million privileges because we know that being working class isn't exactly the easiest. But being a white male does seem to be at the top of privileged peoples.
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You are so wrong. I live in region with a very low rate of ethnic diversity, simply because people rarely migrate to rural areas unless they have familial ties seeing as opportunities in rural areas are few and far between.

Simply because some white individuals are not treated as poorly as black individuals does make that priveleged.

I took the wrong road on my to Omaha the other day from Northwest Iowa and was severely demeaned and mistreated by a nebraska state trooper. My girlfriend was brought back to the officers truck because I have Iowa plates and obviously we were meth trafficking meth heads who deserved a 45 minute interrogation.

People act as though white privelege is this ubiquitous thing that is everywhere at all times, this idea is not at all warranted it is ridiculous.

Even then the word itself makes no sense at all.

This logic is tantamount to walking around punching random individuals on the street and then looking at a person you have chosen not punch and sayiang you’re lucky; you’re priveleged.

No they’re not. the simple fact of not being oppressed does not mean you are priveleged, being treated better than an oppressed class makes you “not oppressed”, NOT priveleged.

I do not hold any influence that is undue I am not treated in a favorable way by law enforcement in my community. I barely make ends meet working for a multi national corporation which has a strict ,darn near affirmative action hiring policy.

You do not know where I come from or the societal forces at play in my community, but please before you ask any questions tell me that I am a priveleged individual.

Here’s the question,

you can’t simply say being white is one privelege you have because that is an inherently racist statement bordering white supremacism.

What has being white given me in my life, that you have concluded is a privelege to me as a person?

The actual point of “white privilege” is to express that white people in the same social, political, and economical situations as a person of color face less discrimination.

No doubt the situation with you and Kaela was mishandled. And that there are vast judgements everywhere including prejudices about your age that probably played in.

As someone who also comes from an extreme economic disadvantage, I understand that it doesn’t seem like you are “privileged”. But also going to Michigan, it’s clear to see how white cisgender men have an advantage.

The idea isn’t saying that every community puts a white male first— it’s an average description of the world mindset. You said that “people act as though white privilege is this ubiquitous thing that is everywhere at all times” and I would argue that is a product of the voices you are surrounding yourself with. I’m not even saying that this is the best phrasing that should be used because it does still act as the treatment for those being white as “normal”. 

But stuff comes with being fair skinned or else so many people wouldn’t desire it. Maybe advantage is a better word. So what has life given you? You don’t walk into most stores and have management follow you around, or have your loosely christian morals condemned too much in this country or have a lack of people who look like you in the media means that you have some privilege. 

Looking at people who look “like me” being successful does not in any manner equate to privelege; to garnish such a conclusion you must first brandish a connection from me to that successful individual along the lines of race and race alone. This connection presumed by race is herein a racist idea and nothing tangible.

And if you’d like to get into the discussion about which demographic has an “Advantage” in any scholastic setting it is very clearly the female population (see degrees earned by women Vs. Men in the past 15 years ), I generally do not engage in such collectivist rhetoric but in the paradigm of this conversation this is relevant to note that in fact it is not cisgendered males at an advantage but females, looking the the academic culture within America sexuality and gender identity are not very highly scrutinized.

Something HUGE to note here is how much rhetoric is floating around directed towards what should be considered favorable societal norms. Even we assume all whites are treated better “better” than people of color, we can both agree it is not an undue privileged simply that all people have the “right” to be treated that way.

Calling it white privelege completely undercuts the fact that people of color are OPPRESSED they are not simply denied some privelege they are oppressed from having inalienable right! Conversations about how a non oppressed group is priveleged solicits a defensive response and rightfully so. It calls rights, privileges and draws the conversation from giving people rights they deserve and should have never gone without to a conversation of uggghhhh we need to end white privilege.

One makes sense one does not.

We can’t take away “white privelege” so not much rhetoric should be spent there.

We can fight for rights to be more fully recognized for oppressed people, and that is where the rhetoric and dialogue should come from.

The media thing is something that you should really look into. I wouldn’t say it is a racist idea at all because it’s true. We can even look at all the times where characters of different ethnicities were whitewashed. Or that many default characters in tv/movies are white. Here are some links about it— just for perspective. link 1 link 2 link 3

This is true that women have been earning more bachelor degrees than men, but they still make up only 27% of all computer science jobs. And are you saying that sexuality and gender identity are not scrutinized in the american educational system? Because they most certainly are. Maybe you have had different experiences but I have found that not being a male is extremely disadvantageous in many aspects of my collegiate career— and in my future job prospects. Almost all of my adult life experiences have shown that being a male would have gotten me farther.

I see what your saying about the rhetoric and obviously there should never be a judgement about anyone on the color of their skin but the content of their character. The conversation shouldn’t be about “ugh we should stop having white privilege”. And yes it should be about rights for the oppressed. People of color use the phrase “white privilege” and offer ways to combat it.  You hate being told you have privilege but the idea is just to realize that there are some things that other people have to work a lot harder to for. And the reason you don’t have to work as hard is due to things beyond your control, like skin color.

After doing more research I found out this is a liberal/democrat concept and all the more right wing blogs really hate it. Just found that interesting.

Obviously this is not the end-all-be-all of argument. Just one facet of a more complicated issue.


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